How to Get More Matches Online:

Jared Laurence

Discover the modern way of flirting

Introduction

If you’ve ever felt stuck with online dating, swiping left and right with nothing to show for it, you’re not alone. So many of us dive into the world of Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, only to end up frustrated and wondering, “What am I doing wrong?”

The answer, my friend, is that online dating is just an extension of real-life social dynamics.

Online dating is a battlefield. Let’s not sugarcoat it. Every dude and his cousin are swiping right on every girl in a five-mile radius. If you want to stand out, you need to show a lifestyle that she wants to be a part of

Here’s how to get more matches online

Step 1: Fix Your Photos

This is the first and biggest mistake guys make. If your photos look like you’re a hermit who hasn’t left the house in a decade, you’re done.

Use photos that actually show who you are and what you’re about. You need photos that showcase your lifestyle. When someone matches with you, they’re saying, “I’m open to seeing if we vibe.”

We need shots showing you doing something interesting, like sports, travel, or just you enjoying life. If you are into music, then photos of you performing, etc.

Choose shots where you’re genuinely enjoying yourself, showing your passions.

If you’re dating online, high-quality photos are the #1 input in your success.

They’ll give women the clearest picture of what you look like (otherwise they think “I can’t tell what he looks like…”)
They make you look attractive and intriguing (it’s good if she thinks: “Ooooh, he must have a cool fashion sense and a cool life!!!”)

Women love a man who other people want to be around. If you’ve got pics of you at events, with friends, or even just doing cool shit, it helps.

It says you have a life. A good example of an Instagram Profile

Step 2: Your Bio

Once your photos grab her attention, she’ll read your bio to learn more about you. Note, I use the term “bio” interchangeably for “prompts” or however else apps like Tinder and Hinge ask you to format your “about me” as well.

Don’t hide who you are as a person. Show it off, so you attract women who share your interests and like you for who you are. Your time is too valuable to waste on women you’re incompatible with.

Keep your bio short, fun, creative, and honest. Show some humor and personality. A little wit goes a long way.

For example:

“I’m a coffee addict with a bad habit of buying books I never finish.”

“Part-time philosopher, full-time snack enthusiast.”

“I’ll share my Netflix password, but only if you promise not to mess up my algorithm.”

Step 3: Social Proof Points

Social Proof points are subtle details that show you’re a real, trustworthy, and interesting person. Women swipe left quickly when they sense a profile might be fake or misleading, so you need to establish credibility and show that you are a trustworthy man who has an amazing life that they want to be a part of.

Catfishing is a major problem. So, make sure you are verified and have an Instagram connected to your dating profiles.

Women live in constant fear of catfishing on dating apps.

This is because it’s hard for them to tell who is:

Trustworthy, eligible, and an actual human
Creepy, already in a relationship, and maybe even a scammer
Someone who might blackmail or stalk them

Here’s how to add proof points:

Verify Your Profile: Many apps offer photo verification to prove you are who you say you are. This is an easy way to build trust.
Include Your Job and Education: Even if you’re not a CEO or Ivy League grad, sharing these details makes you relatable and shows that you are an actual human.
Link Your Instagram: Even a modest Instagram account adds validity to your profile.
Avoid Oversharing: Steer clear of polarizing details like political or religious beliefs. Nothing over the top.

Step 4: Openers

If your opening line is “Hey” or “How’s your day?”, congrats, you’ve joined the 99 percent of dudes who never get a reply.

Be different and unique. Reference something from her profile. Make a playful and fun observation.

For example, if she’s into hiking: “So what’s your go-to hiking snack? Trail mix or something that says I might die on this mountain?”

Or you can ask, “If we were both kids again, what game would you challenge me to?”

Humor and personalization beat generic lines every time. Your vibe in those first messages should be fun and light.

Playful teasing, a little banter, that’s where the magic happens. If she’s smiling while reading your message, you’re already halfway there. Be a guy she’d actually want to have a conversation with.

Tips to Take It to the Next Level

If you’ve nailed your photos, bio, and Social proof points, you’re already ahead of most guys on dating apps. But here are a few bonus tips to truly stand out:

Stay Active: Apps tend to favor profiles that are regularly swiping, messaging, and updating photos.
Personalized Messages: When you match, avoid generic openers like “Hey.” “How are you?” etc Reference something specific in her profile to start a meaningful conversation that gets you a response. Be fun, creative, and high energy.
Be Patient: Building a great profile takes time. If you’re not seeing immediate results, tweak your approach and stay consistent.
Don’t Swipe on Everything: Swipe on women you have a chance with and who you like. Mass swiping gets your account in trouble, and you will either be treated as a bot or be matched with women you don’t like. Be selective. Don’t get sucked into the game of chasing numbers. Focus on quality over quantity.
Don’t Take it Personally: Not every girl will swipe right on you. It’s a numbers game when it comes to online dating. The more you put yourself out there, the more you’ll figure out what works and what doesn’t. If she’s not responding, don’t sit there crying into your keyboard.

The photos matter. The bio matters. But most of all, your energy matters. When you’re playful, confident, and unapologetically real, you’ll stand out like a diamond in a sea of rocks.

FAQ on How to Get More Matches Online

Should I hire a professional photographer?
If your photos suck, absolutely. High-quality photos make a huge difference. Make sure to get different types of photos, such as fun, sexy, charming, lifestyle, cut, etc. Showcase different parts of your personality.

How long should my bio be?
Short and sweet. Make it fun and charming. One to three sentences that show personality.

What if I’m not super photogenic?
Good lighting and genuine smiles work wonders. Don’t overthink it. You can easily look way better with proper lighting. Colors that suit you and clothes that fit you. Get a fashion expert to help you if you really need it.

Should I message first or wait?
Message first. Men are expected to lead. If you want to have dates, you need to make sure you are leading the conversations.

Why do my matches never reply?
Your opener is probably boring and generic. Spice it up, personalize it, and keep it playful. Try different things and see what works.

Conclusion

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jared lawrence

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