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How to approach A Girl In Public
Jared Laurence
Introduction
Did you know that 68% of successful relationships start with an in-person approach, not online dating? Yet most guys freeze up when they spot an attractive woman in public, letting golden opportunities slip through their fingers. The fear of rejection holds them back from what could be an amazing relationship.
Listen up, gentlemen! Whether you’re at the coffee shop, gym, or bookstore, mastering the art of approaching women in public can be your secret weapon to having an abundant dating life. It isn’t rocket science – but it does need a proper system and strategy to work.
We’re about to break down everything you need to know to transform your dating life with the attraction ladder.
Body language
Alright, let’s get real about your approach game! When you’re about to approach that cutie at the coffee shop, your body language speaks before your mouth does. You need to make sure your body language is on point. Be relaxed but confident.
Pro tip: Balance is key here, fellas. You want to come across like a confident dude who’s got his stuff together. Don’t overthink it. If you have been following our guides for a while you will already have your grooming, fashion and health sorted out.
If you haven’t please work on it. Opportunity comes to those who are prepared for it. Make sure you are always prepped to approach a cute girl you like anytime.
Pre-Approach Preparation
Before you even think about approaching women, you’ve got to get your presentation game on point. The work you put in beforehand makes all the difference when it comes to success on approaches.
Your clothes should be clean, well-fitted, and appropriate for wherever you’re at. Personal hygiene is your wingman here. Fresh breath, clean nails, and a solid grooming routine aren’t optional – they’re your foundation to success with women. Hit that shower, trim that beard (or get a clean shave), and make sure your hair game is on point.
Remember, when you look good, you feel good, and that confidence and presentation is gonna show in your vibe. A well-put-together appearance shows your best self and also makes your chances of getting a successful date much higher.
Approaching the Girl
Alright. Trust me, approaching from the side instead of straight at her. And never approach a girl from the back. For girls it’s a scary thing for some stranger to approach from behind.
Your smile is your secret weapon here, bros. Flash those pearly whites (you’ve been keeping up with dental hygiene, right?) and keep your face relaxed and friendly.
If you’re in a public spot like a coffee shop or bookstore, position yourself where she can see you coming. Nobody likes being startled, and this gives her a chance to check you out before you even say a word. Keep it casual and fun.
#Opening the Conversation
This is where your game really shines!
Here’s your great opener: “Hey, I noticed you from across the room and thought you had a really great energy about you. I had to come say hi.” Simple, direct, and unique.
You can make your own unique ones as well. But if you have no openers this is the way to go.
Keep it light and playful, like you’re chatting with a friend.
No heavy stuff here; we’re talking light, playful banter that gets her smiling and engaged.
Instead of asking questions like it’s a job interview, let the conversation be natural. When she’s talking about her weekend plans, throw in some playful commentary: “Sunday brunch? Let me guess – you’re the one who always convinces the group to order extra ice cream.
If you notice she’s rocking some unique jewelry or has a book you recognize, use that as your conversation fuel. Something like, “That’s a pretty cool necklace – bet there’s a story behind that one!” Shows you’re actually paying attention.
Keep the conversation flowing and fun. Once you have built a connection and rapport with her its time to either go for a insta date or get her number.
## Closing the Interaction
When the vibe is right and you’ve built that connection, don’t let it end. Hit her with that smooth closer: “Hey, I’ve really enjoyed chatting with you, but I’ve got to run. Let’s exchange numbers and grab a coffee sometime!”
Now, if she’s not feeling it, no sweat! Remember, rejection is not personal. She doesn’t know you. A random person’s opinion of you does not change your value in any way. Keep that smile on your face, just say “No worries, it was great meeting you!” and walk away like the king you are. No sulking, no drama. Pure outcome independence.
# Physical Contact and Escalation
Let’s talk about the subtle art of physical escalation! Reading body language is key when it comes to escalation and calibration.
Watch her body language when you’re with her. If she’s leaning in, mirroring your movements, or finding reasons to get closer, those are green lights. But if she’s creating distance or crossing her arms? That’s a sign that maybe she is not interested.
When it comes to initiating physical contact, start small and then increase. A light touch on the shoulder when making a joke or a brief hand on the back while moving through a crowd. See her reaction to it.
If she reciprocates the same way, you’re on the right track. But if she tenses up or pulls away, back off and take things slow, build comfort and then try again later.
# The Final Step
Remember gentlemen, approaching women in public isn’t about having the perfect line or wearing the flashiest outfit – it’s about bringing the best version of you in front of her.
Keep practicing these techniques and most importantly, have fun with it! The more you approach with outcome independence and having positive energy, the more natural it becomes. Now get out there and show the world what you’re made of – your future date might be just one approach away!
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jared lawrence
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