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Why Women Ghost Men In Dating and Relationships
Jared Laurence
Introduction
One of the most frustrating experiences in modern dating is ghosting. You’re vibing with someone, you think you have a connection or maybe even a great first date, and then… silence. No explanation, no goodbye—just radio silence that leaves you wondering what went wrong. What did you do?
As a dating coach for men, I’ve heard this question countless times from men all over the world: “Why do women ghost men so much?” And yes ghosting happens a lot especially in online dating. So its always better to be prepared for it.
While ghosting can feel personal or an attack at your self esteem and respect, many times it’s not you its her. Sometimes it is you or something you did in which case we need to improve that part and other times it has nothing to do with you and instead all about her. Understanding the reasons why women ghost men can help you avoid it from happening in the future.
Here’s the harsh reality: women ghost men because it’s too much effort and drama to confront someone and convey that they are not interested. Most men who have no experience with women tend to get aggressive with women after a rejection. It’s not ideal, but it’s a way for most women to sidestep uncomfortable conversations. So lets go in deep on what went wrong and why you were ghosted:
1. She Felt Uncomfortable During Your Interaction
Sometimes, you get ghosted because of something you said or did that made her feel uneasy. It could have been an offhand comment, a joke that didn’t land, or a vibe that didn’t sit well with her. Women are highly attuned to social cues, and if something feels “off,” they may choose to disappear and ghost you rather than confront it.
Maybe you were too sexual too early, or maybe you were too needy which really turns off women. Maybe on a date you didn’t groom or you smelled bad or you dressed like her grandpa. In which case you need to talk to Anna.
Attractive women have multiple men interested in them. So its easier for them to ghost men who make her uncomfortable. I mean the dating market is heavily skewed in favor of women especially online dating. So yes you are going to have situations where you get ghosted by women.
For example, if you made the conversation overly personal or inappropriate right at the beginning of a date, it can cause her to ghost you . Similarly, coming across as overly needy or interrogative on a first date can make her feel like she is at a job interview and not a date.
How to Avoid It:
Be careful of your tone, body language and the topics you discuss with her, especially early on. Keep things light, playful, and fun. Read her body language and verbal cues—if she seems uneasy, shift the conversation to something more neutral. Learn to read the room. If you are struggling with women maybe you need to hire a dating coach. Its the same as hiring a gym trainer to get good with women.
2. She Lost Interest
This one stings, but it’s a reality of dating: sometimes, people lose interest in you. It may have nothing to do with you. Maybe something happened in her life which is a priority and she has no time for you. Maybe the initial spark of attraction faded, or she realized the chemistry wasn’t as strong as she thought it was.
Maybe she found someone else, or maybe you did something that turned her off. Women ghost men in this scenario because women don’t want to hurt your feelings by outright rejecting you. It feels easier (for them) to avoid the confrontation altogether. Which for us men is confusing but for women its a natural thing to do.
How to Avoid It:
Focus on having fun and a great interaction. Dating needs compatibility. You need to taste 10 apples before you know which apple is good for you. Don’t be scared to date a few women. You don’t need to marry the first women you date. That’s a recipe for disaster.
Its better to treat it like a game where you focus on having a fun time, you choose which girls deserve your time and interest and approach them accordingly. Once you level up enough then you can decide what you want to in life.
By being selective, you’re not just saving yourself time—you’re also making sure that you get a partner that might be compatible with you. You need to see what fits you well. Even people you are attracted to might not be a good fit for you at times.
To know the difference you need experience. The odds naturally start to tilt in your favor when you get enough practice and get good with the dating game.
3. You Came Across as Needy or Desperate
Needy behavior is one of the biggest turn-offs in dating for women. Constant texting, asking for approval, or appearing overly eager can make her feel smothered and creep her out. Even if your intentions are good, this kind of energy can signal insecurity, neediness and a lack of masculinity which is a major red flag for women in general.
For example, if she doesn’t respond to your texts immediately, and you follow up with, “Hey, did you see my last message?” or “Are you mad at me?”—that’s a shortcut to ghosting speed run.
How to Avoid It:
Give her space. Women love Confidence and outcome independence in a man. A man who doesn’t chase her is the most attractive thing for a woman. You need to focus on your goals and your mission in life. You should be talking to a lot of women. Not just one. If you are invested in just one women you are bound to fail due to lack of abundance.
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4. She Didn’t Want to Create Drama
Rejecting someone directly can feel too confrontational, and in case of many women it creates more drama and problems. Hence they tend to avoid it to sidestep potential awkwardness or conflict with men. Ghosting, for them, feels like a low-drama way to exit a situation that isn’t working for them.
Yes all women do this. Direct confrontation with men almost always leads them to drama so for them its safer to just ignore.
This is especially true if she feels that you will not take rejection well. Most men don’t take rejection very well. For example, if you’ve already shown signs of being overly emotional or reactive, she might fear that telling you the truth could lead to an uncomfortable situation for her.
5. She Found Someone Else
Sometimes, ghosting has nothing to do with you at all. She might have reconnected with an ex, started seeing someone new, or decided to prioritize another relationship with another guy. It’s unfortunate and I wish it wasn’t like that, but it’s part of the dating world. Even you will reject women who you don’t find attractive.
Dating is always been a numbers game.
How to Avoid It:
You can’t control her actions, and what she does with her life. But you can control how you respond to her rejection. Keep your options open, and don’t put all your energy into one person early on when you have just met.
Make an amazing social circle that has plenty of attractive women so you don’t have to worry about one girl when you have many options. There are over 2 billion women who are above the age of 18 and under 40 that you can date. More added every year.
How to Respond to Ghosting
If you’ve been ghosted, the key is not to take it personally. Go and talk to more women. You should be talking to so many women that you don’t even notice if someone ghosted you. That’s the kind of abundance you need. If you got ghosted after a date. Learn what went wrong or what you could have done better.
Absolutely do not start sending angry or guilt-tripping messages—it won’t change her mind, and it’ll only make you look bad. And any chance you might have had in future will also be destroyed in seconds. You should never be needy or angry with women. That does nothing to benefit your dating life.
The Bigger Picture
Ghosting is frustrating, but it’s also help you grow as a person. Use it as motivation to get better with women. Learn how to dress well, improve your grooming. Hit the gym, and be a better person. Success is the best revenge. Think of it as opportunity for growth.
Funny enough once you have a amazing life even women who ghosted you in the past will try to connect with you again. That’s what being the best version of you helps you do. So instead of getting frustrated at dating. Work on becoming better. Master the game.
Dating is a process of trial and error. Not every date or conversation will lead to something amazing and that’s okay. You will keep getting better with every interaction. And if you feel you need more help then you can always consult a dating coach for men for more advice and one-on-one coaching using the button below.
Because at the end of the day, ghosting isn’t the end of your story—it’s just a bump on the road to finding someone who truly accepts you for you and wants to be with you. Ready to never get ghosted again? Book a Free Training Call with us using the button below:
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jared lawrence
Founder And CEO Of Modern Success
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