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Do looks Matter In Dating ? The Real Truth
Jared Laurence
Introduction
The short answer? Yes, looks do matter in dating—but probably not in the way you think.If anyone says looks don’t matter then they aren’t living in the real world. The fact is looks do matter but not in the way most men consider looks to matter. Men are way more visual than women. Women are more about the vibe and the overall package.
As a dating coach, I hear the question all the time: “Do I need to look like Ryan Reynolds to attract women?” The truth is, women care about looks—but not as much, or in the way, men often think. Let’s break down why looks matter, how much they matter, and what you can do to make the most of what you’ve got.
Looks Are the First Hook, Not the Whole Picture
Let’s not sugarcoat it—physical attraction is important. It’s the first thing that makes someone want to swipe right, walk across the room, and keep their eyes on you. Humans are visual creatures and first impressions matter a lot.
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But here’s where most men get it wrong: they assume “good looks” means your face needs to have movie-star perfection. In reality, women are drawn to how a man presents himself rather than his raw physical features such as his face.
How you dress, your fashion sense, your confidence, your grooming, and your sense of style all play a far bigger role in attraction than your face.
Think of looks as the cover of a book you see in a bookstore. Yes, it’s what grabs your attention initially, but if the content inside doesn’t deliver, the book gets put back on the shelf. It’s the same with dating. Looks matter but its not everything. Looks might open the door, but personality, character, and charm are what make women fall in love with you. So the idea is that you should focus on being the best version of yourself as present yourself as the entire package.
Attraction Is More Than Just Face
When women say they’re attracted to a man’s “vibe,” they’re not just throwing around a vague buzzword—they actually mean your vibe as a person. Women are more in-tune with body language and gestural cues then men. That is why they find men who are confident, have good body language and charisma naturally attractive because of the way they move and act regardless of physical appearance.
You might not have control over your bone structure, but you do have control over how you carry yourself, how you dress, how you groom yourself etc. A confident, charming average looking guy always beats a good looking nervous, and panicky guy in terms of dating. And thats the whole point of this post. Instead of focusing on what you cannot change you need to focus on what you can.
The Power of Presentation
While raw physical features are mostly out of your hands, how you present yourself is entirely within your control. Women notice details: the fit of your clothes, whether you’ve taken the time to groom, and how you carry yourself. Your fashion sense and body language.
Check my pictures below for example. I went from Dorky to Stud Real Fast with regular workout, better clothes and grooming. That is why I say. Its about the whole package you present to the world.
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Invest in clothes that fit well and suit your personal style. The idea is to be the best version of yourself. You don’t need a designer wardrobe—just pieces that make you look and feel good and confident. Pay attention to grooming, too. A fresh haircut, clean nails, and even a signature scent can make a world of difference in how attractive you look to women.
When you take pride in your appearance, it shows that you value yourself, and that’s inherently attractive. Women love a guy who looks amazing.
Confidence:
If there’s one quality that is more important than looks, then it’s confidence. Confidence is about being comfortable in your own skin. It’s the quiet assurance that says, “I know who I am, and I like who I am.”
When you’re confident, your physical appearance takes on a different energy and vibe. You are suddenly more charming to women.
The key to confidence is focusing on your life and being the best version of you.
What Women Really Want
Here’s the truth: women want a complete package. Looks might catch their eye, but they’re looking for someone who can give them the emotions and stability they seek in a man. Because at the end of the day, that’s what people fall in love with—not just your looks, but the story you bring to their life.
So do looks matter in dating? Absolutely. But they’re just one piece of the puzzle. The good news is, you don’t need to be conventionally handsome to be attractive to women. Women are drawn to the complete package—confidence, charm, presentation, and personality. You don’t need to look like a movie star to attract someone amazing; you just need to be the best version of yourself.
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