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How to Create A Dating Profile that gets Unlimited Matches
Jared Laurence
Introduction
Online dating is now the future of dating. Whether you like it or not swipes and DMs are the kings and queens of romance for the modern generation. While the game has changed, the goal remains the same: to create a awesome experience and get more dates with beautiful women who like you for you. But let’s be honest, online dating can feel like a full-time job if you don’t know what you’re doing. And it is kinda made in a way that encourages pay to win when it comes to dating for men. I mean how else would those dating companies make money.
So lets start by making sure your dating profile show’s your A Game.
Your online dating profile is the first impression you make on someone. So you need to make sure its a good one.
Introduction
As a dating coach, I’ve worked with countless men to help them improve their online dating game. If you’re ready to stand out and meet attractive women , here are the five skills you need to master for online dating success.
1. Crafting an Awesome Profile
Your dating profile is your first impression you make online—it’s your sales pitch/ introduction, your highlight reel, and your online handshake all rolled into one. And yet, so many men treat it like an afterthought.
Now here is a statistic that most men do not know. 80% of online dating game is photos. I am not kidding. Almost all of your dating success hinges on how good and creative your photos are and what they tell about you.
The key to a great profile is making sure you showcase who you are and what you bring to the table without oversharing and sounding try hard.
Tips to Master Online Pictures :
- Choose the Right Photos: Use a mix of well-lit solo shots, action photos (doing something you enjoy), and one social photo along with a few sexy photos that showcase your lifestyle. Make sure that you get professional photos and no selfies won’t cut it.
- Write a Compelling Bio: Keep it short, and fun. Instead of saying something generic like “I like to travel,” try, “Always looking for my next adventure—recently fell in love with hiking in sedona.”
- Show, Don’t Tell: Let your photos and bio reveal your personality naturally. Instead of “I’m funny,” have a witty line in the bio. Show don’t tell is a better way to put it.
Types of Photos That You Need
1) Sexy: A clear photo of you looking your best that highlights your physique and physical features in good lighting, with a confident look and a smile.
2) Funny: Showcase your humor and a lighthearted personality.
3) Status: Pictures showing your success and ambition. It can be awards, your achievements in academic or work settings or your luxury car collection.
4) Cute/Awe: A photo with a puppy, parent(s), or all three. “You either want a puppy you want or you want mom or you want Dad or you want all three and put them together.”
5) Display of Excellence: Showcasing a skill or hobby you love and excel at. It can be playing the guitar, rock climbing, or cooking.
6) Wild Card: Something unique that shows you are different. Anime or Gaming Cosplay for example
For example:
Tips To Create an Awesome Bio :
- Headline: A catchy and attention-grabbing bio that is unique interesting and summarizes your personality without being generic. You should mention things you like to do while being charming and fun at the same time.
- Humble Brag: Subtly show and highlight your accomplishments and positive qualities without it coming off as bragging.
- Qualifying/Disqualifying: Setting standards by stating what you are looking for or explicitly stating what you don’t want in a date. Be fun and creative about it. Its better to say something positive that you want in a woman.
- Call to Action on The Profile: Tell potential matches to swipe right or connect on other platforms. Give them something to do or ask a question they would reply to.
2. Starting Conversations That Are Interesting
The dreaded first message for men online. Too many guys rely on boring openers like “Hey” or “How’s it going?” These are dead ends. No attractive girl is going to reply to these message. We have already talked about the 6 texting mistakes men do in dating. This is one of them. If you want to stand out from a sea of guys in her dms, you need to send a message that sparks curiousity and makes her feel something.
Humor goes a long way.
If her profile mentions she loves dogs, try, “I’m going to need proof your dog is as cute as mine before we proceed.”
If your texts look like this:
- “Hey, what’s up?”
- “How was your day?”
- “What are you doing?”
… you’re not texting; you’re putting her to sleep. No wonder you are struggling with online dating. Instead do this:
- Situational Openers: Tailor your opening message to something specific you noticed in the girl’s profile.
- Playful to Flirty to Date: Gradually escalating the conversation from lighthearted conversation to flirtatious messages and ultimately securing a date with her. The goal of texting is to get a date. Don’t get caught up in other things when your goal should be to get dates.
3. Building Connection
Getting a great match or a reply to an Instagram DM is just the beginning. The real work happens during the conversation where you build a bit of comfort and connection before you ask her out on a date. The most important thing here is to be fun and charming.
But here’s most men’s mistake: they either interrogate her with a series of questions or jump into deep intimate topics too soon. Connection happens when the conversation flows naturally and feels easy. Real connection happens face to face. You cannot date a girl via text.
- Don’t ask boring Questions
- Don’t overtext.
- Don’t be a negative Nancy.
- Don’t Talk about your exes
If you wanna know more you can read the guide on the biggest mistakes men make in texting
4. Understand When to Move Offline
The whole point of online dating is to eventually take it offline. Staying in the messaging phase too long can cause her to lose interest. Women want a rollercoaster of emotions from men. If you have conversations that lead nowhere you are bound to be disappointed. On the flip side, rushing to set the date can make you come off as desperate if you haven’t built enough comfort. So balance is key. So make sure she is interested in you, flirt with her, talk to her a bit and then ask her for a date.
- Look for Signs She’s Interested: If she’s engaging and asking questions about you, it’s a good time to move forward and try to set up a date.
- Be Clear, But Casual: Say something like, “I’ve really enjoyed chatting—want to grab coffee this weekend and see if we click in person?”
- Suggest a Low-Pressure First Date: An arcade date or a walk are great options for keeping things relaxed and interesting.
5. Be Patience
Online dating isn’t instant gratification. The dating market is skewed heavily in favor of women. There are far fewer women then men in online dating. So yes you’ll face ghosting, mismatches, and the occasional awkward interactions and dates. The key is to practice and get good at dating. You need to learn to walk before you can run. Just like everything else dating is a skill. The more you practice the better you get. It is better to learn it now even if you make a few mistakes along the way.
- Don’t Take Rejection Personally: Ghosting happens—it’s more about them than you. Move on and meet other people. You should not be obsessed with one woman. Abundance mindset is key to dating women.
- Focus on the Process, Not Just the Outcome: Each interaction, even the unsuccessful ones, is practice for getting better. Learn and improve. Keep focusing on being the best version of yourself and by the time you know it. You will have already become a master in the art of dating.
Final Thoughts
Online dating isn’t rocket science, but it does need practice and effort. With this guide and our coaching you can definitely shorten the time needed to learn these skills so that you don’t have to reinvent the wheel.
By optimizing your profile, mastering conversations, and knowing when to take things offline, you can stand out and get unlimited matches with women that you like. Remember amazing photos as shown above are key to getting success with online dating.
Remember, success in online dating isn’t just about finding “the one” overnight—it’s about learning, growing, and having fun along the way. Keep practicing, stay authentic, and focus on enjoying the process.
Ready to take your online dating skills to the next level with the Modern Success Team? Book A Free customized Training call with us using the Button below so you can get 1-1 advice on your problems and what’s holding you back.
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